E and I have been talking a lot about how we communicate and he said something interesting in the car today. He pointed out that our ability to communicate with each other is a lot better now than when we first started dating.
For as true as that is – we still talk about and fight about and reassess how we are communicating on a daily basis.
I think being a polyamorous hing is a lot like being a professional translator. Imagine this:
Person one says thing in their native language.
Translator must translate it from person one’s language into their native language.
Then the translator must select the most accurate words to convey person one’s meaning to person two.
Even the first step is hard. All three of us struggle to speak our own language. I know I am always searching for words that mean what I need them to. E and L do the same in their language. So even making sure the translator understands with the best meaning can be hard.
Then we say what we say and hope that it means what it needs to to the other person. Here is how we all ask for pizza for dinner.
D: I wouldn’t hate pizza for dinner.
E: I have been thinking a lot about pizza.
L: pizza is fine.
Poly people love to talk about communicating but keep in mind IT IS HARD!!!!
Maybe we should build a Rosetta Stone…
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